(Comfortable? Advice from a mom.)
If there was one piece of advice that I would give to young women it would be this, to try to find the balance between being stylish and comfortable. I have friends that can wear high heel shoes all day long and still look great walking down the hall. That has never really been me. My feet usually hurt after only an hour, especially if I’ve stood for most of those 60 minutes. There were times of my life when I threw style out completely out the window for comfort. Do I regret those days? A little…because now I realize that no matter where you are going, you will bump into someone you know and wished you were dressed better. Actually, I used to think that my husband could deal with how I really looked…I mean, really looked without makeup and all. The fact is, I was being selfish. I just didn’t want to put the effort into getting “pretty.” Now, don’t get your panties all twisted up in a bunch. My husband loves me just as I am but let’s be honest, in today’s world there is too much opportunity for wondering eyes and even more to happen. It was a good friend of mine that taught me that I should be taking care of myself, not only for me but for my husband…just like when we were dating and I was trying to keep his eyes on me. She told me that for 50 years she has made sure that by the time her husband was out the door for work, he saw here dressed and makeup on…she wanted to be sure that she looked good before he left for the day. She said, “I wanted to be sure that the last image he had of me was the one that I wanted him to remember.”
When she said that to me, it convicted me and made me think, “What image do I leave in my husband’s mind when he goes to work every day?” “Is it one that I would want him to remember me by?” The answer was “no”. If you knew that you were competing for your husband’s eyes, would you automatically hand yourself over in defeat? I didn’t think so…I realized that the image that I was leaving with him everyday was not one that I wanted him to remember me by. When I sat down, thought about it and prayed on it…I realized that I was giving my best looks to work, friends and people who I rarely see. That’s not right! Not right at all.
My fix is to try to find balance between comfort and style. For instance, if I have to choose between high heels and flats, I look at how long I’ll be standing. Will I be sitting most of the time? Will there be dancing? Blah…blah…blah….but it matters. I would rather wear shoes all night and have a complete look than take off my high heels and then not be able to put them back on because my feet are swollen. Wouldn’t you?
So, what is my comfortable style…I believe in wearing converse sneakers or cowboy boots with dresses…as long as it’s cute, pretty or trendy. What’s your comfortable style?
Photo by Nicole Gagliano Photography
(If I would have thought about it…I so would have done the cowboy boots with my wedding gown.)